5 Warning Signs of Pampering your Child

Hello Dear Moms & Dads!

You may wonder why I am talking about the signs of pampering your child.

Well, we all have confronted a spoiled child. One, who never listens to his parents, is always domineering, throws fits of anger, and disrespects them.

What do you think about such a child?

Obviously, you call him “Baccha Bahut Bigda Hua Hai. Pta Nahi Parents Dhyan Kyun Nahi Dete Apne Bacche Par”

This means you agree that it’s the parent’s behaviour that spoils the kids.

But, are they doing it deliberately?

NO! Parents are the symbol of love and care. They don’t want any inconvenience and discomfort for their children. And that’s why traverse that extra mile to do whatever they can for their kids.

However, this may prove harmful to the child. You do it in the name of love and care, but it’s actually pampering your child.

So, does that mean you should not love your child? Should not take care of him?

No, you definitely should! But, let us first understand how it pampers your child.

 What Is ‘Pampering’?

Pampering is ‘to cater to one’s needs and desires in an excessive way, that in turn adversely affects his character, nature or attitude.’

 Mind you, the word “excessive” is the keyword.

So, if you gratify the demands of your child in excess, you are pampering him. For you, it’s love and affection for the child, but the following signs indicate a pampered child:

• He takes you for granted
• He doesn’t like to do things on his own, will cry if anyone is not available to do so.
• He doesn’t value money. In fact, appreciates the abundance of money from a very young age
• He fulfils his demands either by hook or by crook
• He uses foul language and disrespects elders
• He always fights with his peers

If you notice any of these signs in your child, it’s time to act. But, first understand the five warning signs or ways of pampering your child:

 #1  You buy him everything as soon as he demands

I have seen parents who fulfil all their child’s demands as soon as he utters a word. It is more prominent with working parents as they are not able to spend enough time with their kids.

To make up for their guilt, they give in to the child’s demands whether legitimate or not because they don’t wish to upset the child.

Parents also do so when they are too tired to handle their child’s tantrums. In this situation, fulfilling the child’s demands seems the easiest solution.

#2  You buy him things in excess of necessity

This behaviour is an extension of the previous habit. Parents just buy things for their child, lest he may get annoyed. They fail to track whether the child needs it or not.

 

A child is innocent. He gets carried away by the new toys and stuff in the market. But, parents must understand and buy things according to the necessity.

#3  You always take his side even if he is wrong

Every mom thinks his child as innocent and incapable of doing wrong things, but you should always support the truth.

If any neighbour or the teacher complains of the child’s wrongdoings, and you ignore by taking the side of your child, you are pampering him.

 

#4  You never let the child do things on his own

As a mother, you want to be available each time your child needs you. But, it’s also your responsibility to inculcate independence in him.

If you don’t let your child do things on his own, he will never learn. He won’t be able to complete tasks by himself and will always look forward to someone else.

#5  You hand him money whenever he asks for anything

When you don’t have time to buy things for your child and hand him money to gratify his desires, you are pampering. You are showing him, no matter what, no matter whatever is the cost of his favourite toy, you can buy it.

And ultimately, you inculcate in him the habit of taking everything for granted.

So, beware of these warning signs of pampering your child. Remember, it’s easy to pamper now, but difficult to pay its cost later!

 

Do you know of any other ways by which parents pamper their child? Add them to this list.

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